Lovely Lady

After talking to a dear friend of mine, I sit here pondering about love. What is it about love that makes you so giddy you can't focus on anything and when you see that special person you get butterflies in your stomach? When Brad and I were on our first date I was so nervous, I knocked over my water glass, tripped, couldn't stop shaking and on top of it all...couldn't stop talking about myself. Talk about bad date!!!! But in the end, Brad decided to love me and give me his heart. When we first started dating I couldn't stop talking about him and staring at him and wanting to be with him ALL THE TIME! But as time goes on, you learn to be your own person within a relationship. I wonder though how can something like love make you feel so wonderful but at the same time make you feel like your heart is literally being ripped from your very body. It's a very strange thing if you think about it. My friend was telling me how he was so in love with someone but she didn't even know it but yet he would do anything for her. He feels pain every day when he thinks about her and how he cannot be with her. And an even bigger question...can you love one person but be in love with another? I believe so. When you give your heart to someone, you are giving them a piece of you. And they will always mean something to you. Back to the previous question, I do think that you can love someone but be in love with someone. I mean you can love your friend but be in love with your boyfriend. Or you can love an ex but be in love with your partner. I think that even when you are no longer with someone, you will always still love them because they were a part of your life. For some the love will fade and for others it will burn passionately for years (like in the notebook!). When you find someone else, will the love and passion go to them or will you hold it all in because of your past love. I ponder this all for my friend as I tried to give him advice tonight. I feel as though sometimes I can be an eternal optimist for love. I do believe in true love but also believe that not just one person can give you that love. It makes me think of that Sex and the City episode where Charlotte says they only get 2 true loves. Who made that up? And if that is so, guess I am all out of chances so Brad better never leave me hanging :)